Spanking Quick Start Guide

Information about the effects of spanking on children.


SpankingSome parents spank, swat, slap and hit their children because they believe physical punishment is necessary.

Some mothers and fathers are overwhelmed and hit as a reaction- lots of these parents are searching for another way.  They want to gain control of their own emotions and stop hitting their children, but they do not know how.

It will be hard to read some of these articles- none of us wants to harm our children.

I encourage you to lay down your defenses, and consider what is being shared even though it is hard.  Rather than jumping to statements like “that’s a bunch of BS” or “I was spanked and I’m fine” maybe we can think “let me consider this… what does this mean if it is true?”


How Spanking Harms the Brain

“According to the report, spanking may reduce the brain’s grey matter, the connective tissue between brain cells. Grey matter is an integral part of the central nervous system and influences intelligence testing and learning abilities. It includes areas of the brain involved in sensory perception, speech, muscular control, emotions and memory. Additional research supports the hypothesis that children and adolescents subjected to child abuse and neglect have less grey matter than children who have not been ill-treated.”  Click here to read.

Ten Reasons Not to Hit Your Kids

For the past several years, many psychiatrists, sociological researchers, and parents have recommended that we seriously consider banning the physical punishment of children. The most important reason, according to Dr. Peter Newell, coordinator of the organization End Punishment of Children (EPOCH)2, is that “all people have the right to protection of their physical integrity, and children are people too.”3       Click here to read.         

Long -Term Damage to Sexuality

“When a female’s buttocks are struck, blood rushes to the vulva. There is a sexual component to something that is supposed to be about “discipline” and making the child “mind.” I wish those parents who spank would become aware of the sexual-abuse aspect of it. Maybe that would make them think twice about resorting to this form of punishment.

It is particularly humiliating for a female child to be spanked by an adult male. There is a profound feeling of violation at having one’s genitals struck by this man who is supposed to protect you. It can prompt a female to either seek out abusive males later in life, or develop a lasting fear of/ aversion to the male gender.”  Click here to read.

Spanking Traumatizes Children

“Children are more vulnerable to trauma because at all ages, even in late adolescence, they are completely dependent upon and under the power of the adults doing harm to them- They have no legal right to get up and walk out, move out or run away. It is this helplessness and confusion about how a “loving protector” or a “just authority” can cause fear and harm that adds the final blow to the child.”  Click here to read. 



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