Romance in Marriage is Different than I Expected

My husband and I had to go on a retreat before we got married. One of the seminars was about romance looking different than we expect. It’s not that I didn’t believe it, I just didn’t understand it.

Now, I do.

Each morning Kris gets my coffee all ready so that all I have to do is push power when I come downstairs. He always makes sure one of my two favorite mugs is clean and ready, too. Even when we’re fighting.

Romance in Marriage is Different than I expected by Jennifer Andersen OurMuddyBoots.com
Romance in Marriage is Different than I expected by Jennifer Andersen OurMuddyBoots.com

I try to do the same for him, but I forget a lot. When I told Kris that I feel badly about this, he shifted my perspective. He shared his gratitude for being able to go to bed when he’s ready-which is much earlier than the kids and I- rather than having to wait until one of the kids are ready, too.

Kris rarely brings me flowers, and I don’t cook fancy dinners. I suspect coffee and sleep are examples of the romance our counselors were speaking of. At least in our house.

They were right.

One Reply to “Romance in Marriage is Different than I Expected”

  1. I do think that prioritizing your marriage can be a challenge. This is a great reminder that while life may not look the movies, often romance can be more fulfilling. Thanks for sharing.