My Kids Live in a Bubble: Motherhood Moment #7

Sydney laying in a colorful bed.
Another picture of Sydney! Owen is particular about which photos he wants shared with the world, so for now we are focused on this little girl <3

When this photo was taken, we were at one of our closest friends houses celebrating a special birthday and Halloween.  In the rooms behind me, more than 15 children were playing instruments. Six moms were laughing and talking loud enough to be heard.  Outside of the window children were running and laughing and screaming.

Sydney needed a break.

I went looking for her and walked in to find her here.  She had removed her shoes and placed them neatly on the night stand.  She tucked her little body under the covers and pulled them snugly up to her chin.

When I turned the corner and saw her precious face my whole self paused.  My shoulders relaxed, and a grateful smile showed on my face.

After last week’s Motherhood Moment, many people wrote to tell me that they were “Sydney all grown up”.  Stories were recounted of introverted people living in an extroverted world.  Readers shared their challenges.  They wrote of processing life inwardly in a culture where extroverts are the ones that are supported and valued.

One woman told me that my daughter was lucky “to have a mother who supported and understood how great this need for time away is”.  She went on to share that she was encouraged to be more “normal” as a child and behave in a way that was more socially accepted.

It was while reading this last statement that I felt the enormity of my personal gratitude.  However it happened, I have come to understand the value in letting my children be who they are instead of what others expect of them.

Not every house will accept that Sydney’s time away is not rude.  Every bed will not be available for her to climb into.  Finding Sydney so comfortable and refreshed on this day though, made me feel the importance of choosing environments that support my children.

Some say this is sheltering my children, that I am keeping them in a bubble.  Maybe I am.

I believe with every part of me that the most important thing for my children is that they are not shut down or shut up.  If I have to keep them in a relative bubble to allow them to be confident with who they are, then bring on the soap.

I have faith that this will provide my children the strength, security and acceptance they need.  I trust that these feelings will give them a strong foundation. I pray that even when they are with people who are not as loving, this beginning will provide them a life that is comfortable, smart, and joyful.

What is your Motherhood Moment?  

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9 Replies to “My Kids Live in a Bubble: Motherhood Moment #7”

  1. You have learned such a valuable lesson – let your kids be who they are. This doesn’t mean that you aren’t going to teach them to be good people or use good manners or discipline them if needed…. but they are born with personalities and we need to honor that.

    • Kristina,

      You are right, it is a hugely valuable lesson. You are also right that my kids do learn these things. I never understood that modeling was the best teacher. We hear it talked about all the time “Do what I say and not what I do” and such phrases, but we do not really put this idea into practice as a society. It’s all so new for me.

      Thank you for sharing <3

  2. This post is refreshing. I agree that it’s important (& rewarding) to create a good foundation for the kids. And letting a child be who they are is important for healthy emotional development. They have to live their own lives down the road, so why not start letting them do it now while just giving some guidance & discipline as neeeded. 🙂 CUTE PIC!

    • Krystyna,

      I love the way you phrased that “They have to live their own lives down the road, so why not start letting them do it now while giving some guidance and discipline as needed?” That’s it for me. It hasn’t always been what I have understood, but I am coming to appreciate this more each day. (And I agree about the pic 🙂 ) Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts.

  3. Agreed – you have to let kids be themselves. It’s how they are going to end up turning into amazing adults. Our job is to guide them and show them right from wrong, but in the end – they have to figure it out for themselves.

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