Sharing information is not extreme. This is an illogical connection. Informed is Not Extreme: A Public Response to Single Dad Laughing
We have been conditioned to believe that every single thing that happens to our child is our choice because we are their parent.What goes into their body, what happens to their body and where and how they spend their time, is all up to us.
It is easy to be offended if anyone tries to tell us that there might be a better way. After all, we have poured our heart and soul into giving our children the best life possible. If we have been doing it “wrong” our hearts might actually break.
Plus, there are unkind people- individuals who forget that we love our children even if we made uninformed choices. Sometimes these people hit below the belt and make us feel awful and sick about the things we have done- even though we did not know.
What are we to do but close ourselves off and keep the defenses flying so that we are not left feeling grievous over screwing up the most important part of our lives- our children? If somebody is going to sling unintelligent and hurtful words, why should we listen? I do not believe that we should.
There is another group of people though which is made up of mothers, fathers, researchers, psychologists and scientists who are trying to share information. These people are not extremists, they are not rude, they are not trying to personally insult anyone, or break the heart of a parent by sharing facts. These individuals are simply trying to make known the truth of their discoveries.
Their words are not popular. Their findings are inconvenient. Their evidence shows us that as a culture we have been way, way off. The information that this group shares is difficult to learn.
It means that we have to change, re-evaluate, and admit that we’ve been doing it wrong. Who wants to do that?!
Some people do. Some people are desperately seeking the facts. They want to stop pretending that society’s way is the only way. They want to feel the authenticity that comes from listening to their intuition and their children. The people who seek this information have learned that the sky does not fall when we change the way that we do things.
I fall into this last group. I have made many changes, admitted to many shortcomings, and adjusted the way I live with my family. If my saying this makes you feel bad, please know that it is not my intention. I have learned that there are far too many untruths circulating about how we raise our children. I now know that it is my responsibility to care about knowing them. I am a parent and I am a part of my society.
I care about sharing this information because I know. I care because children deserve my time, thought and consideration. I care because other parents should have an opportunity to know sooner- instead of later. I care because we are being forced to mistake human rights for parenting choices.
I care because how society treats our children is the world in which my children live.
For those who refer to the sharing of this information as extreme, I urge you to reconsider. Quite simply, this is learning. This is enlightenment. This is self improvement. And it is all done for the best reason of all; to make things better for our children.
Being informed does not make us extreme, it makes us informed.