Giving My Daughter her Space
by Jennifer Andersen
This is Sydney. Totally and completely. Directly behind me there were 7 other children playing in a fort constructed out of limbs and branches. They were chasing each other and running and laughing and sometimes playing “bad guys”. It wasn’t that Sydney did not participate in the fun, or play with the other children. She did.
Sometimes though, Sydney needs a moment. She needs to remove herself from the busyness and noise so that she can recharge. Her mom is the opposite. I process most things in life by thinking them through with others, so it took me some time to understand.
Now I do. So when I see that Sydney needs some space, I make sure that she gets it. I help to keep the loudness and chaos away and postpone plans for a few more minutes. When she asks, I allow her to rest her head in the crook of my neck and breathe in my familiar and comforting smell. I let her melt into me, and go into herself.
Though sometimes giving Sydney this time makes us late or miss things, I understand that this is more important. Giving her this time lets her know that I see what she needs, and will do what I can to make sure that she gets it.