Do what you want for Mother’s Day

There are lots of people who want us to spend Mother’s Day their way, but do what you want for Mother’s Day!

As usual, commercials, restaurants, and jewelry stores are trying to convince us of what we want (read: what they want us to want) for Mother’s Day.  Even when we are good at tuning out the messages, they can impact us and lead us away from how we really want to spend a day.

There is also a group asking Mothers to refrain from using all media (including the internet) on Mother’s Day.  You know, so that we can connect with our family.  There is an irony in this message for many of us who are to deepen the connection with our children on a daily basis.

Personally, I find this message insulting for a couple of reasons.  First, does the think-tank behind this campaign know better than my husband, children, and I what keeps our family connected?  Second, the internet is what stops me from feeling alone in my parenting choices!  Let me revel in it!

This Mother’s Day, I am going to be yet another voice telling you what to do.  Here is my suggestion: IGNORE EVERYBODY WHO TELLS YOU WHAT TO DO! If you don’t want to celebrate, don’t!  If you want to celebrate, celebrate!  If you and your family want to see a movie, or sit in front of TV, or go on a hike, or cook, or have a picnic at the park, do it!

Enjoy your day without regret or feeling like you are “doing it wrong”.  An expensive brunch at a stuffy restaurant and another piece of jewelry does not a Mother’s Day make.  The second Sunday in May is only made successful by however we each define it.

However you choose to celebrate, whether  a fancy-shmancy brunch, or living out a normal Sunday in May, I wish you and your family a day filled with love, connection, and hugs and kisses galore!

Happy Mother’s Day bootsers <3

 

 

 

 

2 Replies to “Do what you want for Mother’s Day”

  1. Oh boy. I agree. And as if turning off social media and connecting with your children on one day would make an iota of difference in the long run anyway. As a mom of a special needs child, I despise “days” in general. They are so upsetting for him, and consequently for the rest of us really. Want to know what stresses me out? Father’s day, mother’s day, Christmas day, Easter Sunday, Thanksgiving day, etc. They are “change” and that means meltdown.

    But, the great thing is that somewhere around the twentieth time someone in public asked me, “Can’t you control your child?!” I stopped giving a crap what other people expect of me because that “mom ego” just crumbled one day when I finally said, “No. No I can’t.”

    But those “days” linger because the kids all think they love them.

    Moms would be much happier if they just took your advice and always did what is best for them and their family and let go of everyone else’s expectations and orders.