Breastfeeding Dads

In our house, Kris is also responsible for successful breastfeeding.

For the glass of water, and the footrest.

For finding the missing tube and moving the plant away from the outlet.

For bringing the baby to me even when you knew I needed more sleep.

For bagging and freezing all of the milk and washing the “Boppee” cover.  Again.

For setting up the pump before you went to bed, complete with gossip magazines.

For bagging all of the milk and cleaning all of the parts.  For picking up the house and keeping batteries for the remote.

For cutting up my food, so I could eat one handed and telling fellow diners to keep their comments to themselves.

For reminding me of the importance of the amount of time consumed, and for changing a newborns diaper when his desire was to remain latched on.

You quieted your ego when bottles were rejected, and handed baby over  in the interest of his trust.

You let me sleep an extra “shift” when babe remained at rest.  You reminded me that nothing else needed to be done.

Through sleepy eyes and scruffy face you went to get us dinner- your mismatched shorts and dirty shirt were really badges of honor.

Never for a moment did I doubt exactly where you stood.  Nothing mattered more to you than supporting your new babe and his mom.

Often dads are forgotten for the significant role they play.  As though successful breastfeeding is only up to mother.

Here we recognize you for all that you have done. The little things that went unnoticed have seen a great reward.

A happy, healthy, trusting baby and a strong start to family life.

As any Dad will tell you there is no more important role in life.

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24 Replies to “Breastfeeding Dads”

  1. Yes yes yes!! This week I really need reminding of the vital role that dad’s play in parenting and arguably the first, most important steps they take as a father. So many women talk about introducing formula as a way for dad’s to bond with their baby but there are so many other ways that father’s can share intimacy with their children – changing nappies was a big one in our house and my husband always changed pretty much every nappy throughout those newborn weeks, and enjoyed it! He also really enjoyed taking the nappies off the line and folding them up – wierd but true! And feeding me and the other kids. And taking the kids to their activities so I could sleep. And cleaning the birth pool. And the shower. And just cuddling a newborn when they are done feeding but are still unsettled and needing the warmth of human arms. And for never ever ever even suggesting artificial feeding. And now for getting the breakfast ready even though he’s going to be late for work so that I can pump for another family. Yep dad’s are awesome – thankyou for this beautiful reminder!

    • Sarah,

      It seems to me that if we started honoring dad’s role as support person, things would be better. This is how Kris defined his role during those first months- doing whatever he could so that baby and I were comfortable. I wish people were not bothered by this idea, because Kris is so close to our kids and has been from their first day of life. Like so many others he did the things you mention above.

      It’s an interesting place that we are in…

      Thank you so much for sharing those thoughts, Sarah.

    • Nicole,

      It is telling to me how many people are appreciative of this article. I think it is so important that we continue to remind everyone- not just dads- how important supporting mom and baby are, and how honorable it is.

      Thank you for being here, Nicole.

  2. Beautiful. 🙂 I am lucky enough to have a supportive husband too. He’s so in the habit of getting me a drink and snack, he still asks me if I want one even though our daughter weaned about 6 months ago lol.

    • I love that Camille! You just got me thinking that these early days with a child really establish our family dynamic, don’t they? Not that we don’t adjust and change, but it is so formative.

      Glad to hear of another “Breastfeeding Dad”. They are more common than we let on 😉

  3. So sweet. Thank you for reminding me of all of the amazing things my husband has done. Now that we are 18 months in and nursing only twice a day, he will still bring him to me at 5am to nurse. When he was young and nursing all night, a friendly hand on my back and soft words, “I support you” in the dark made all the difference. The water bottle and snack set up at the couch, bringing two full water bottles up to bed for me, washing diapers, helping with the latch. When I was struggling with what to do, would always suggest, to nurse him. I would forget that it fixes everything. These are some amazing men.

    • It seems that it is a confusing time for dads. The dads I know want to be as supportive as they can- and this is just how they do it 🙂 Thanks so much for coming by, Jenni.

  4. Oh how I love this post! I’d love to feature it in the Tuesday Baby Link Up this week. Would you be willing to add a link back to one of the hosts, so I can feature it? Thanks so much for linking up!

  5. This is oh so beautiful! This hits so close to home. My husband was an integral part creating a successful breastfeeding relationship in our family. Without his physical, mental, and emotional support I couldn’t have done it! He literally helped lift my baby’s head to latch on while I was in that awkward newborn stage. It wasn’t easy juggling an almost 11 pound newborn! Thanks for linking up with the Tuesday Baby Link Up!

    • Shannon,
      I know what you mean. It was so strange at the time, too. A friend once said to me “before we had kids it’s like we were not even married, it’s like we were boyfriend and girlfriend”. Breastfeeding was the first big example of that for me.

      Thank you so much for being here, Shannon

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  7. My husband was a great help the first few months that I was breast feeding. The first time in public? Yikes. I must admit, I was terrified. I’m a very modest person and was truly afraid someone would see. My husband did a great job helping me be discreet and getting us both comfortable. I’m looking at becoming a post partum doula because not all new moms are blessed enough to have a supportive husband like mine, but everyone should have someone as a cheerleader and encourager.

    • They certainly should, Amanda. Before having children of my own, I could not have understood the importance of a postpartum doula. When my first was born I rarely nursed in public. If I did I was always covered. Now I nurse my three year old anytime, anywhere. It is so much better for both of us.

      Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts with us. Keep us posted on your journey if you decide to become a postpartum doula.

  8. So beautiful! I hope one day I get to experience this one day if I have a second child. I’m hopeful that one day my son with have a man in his life that will love him as if he were his own son.

  9. When I was struggling nursing my first, not once did my husband suggest formula. Instead, he reminded me of tips we learned in our breastfeeding class that I was too hormonal and sleep deprived to remember. I am a huge believer that breastfeeding success has everything to do with a good support system.

  10. Coming from a newer father that is dealing with a wrongful death of one of his twins. I’ve never felt more worthless then when I can’t sooth my daughter while mommy is at work with her magical milk dispensers. I’ve learned some tricks but it is soooo rough.

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