Adjusting to Motherhood

“For those whom adjusting to motherhood wasn’t easy; was there a turning point for you when you felt like things were getting better and that you were doing okay?”

We recently asked this question of Our Muddy Boots readers on our Facebook page. The answers are honest, touching, raw, and insightful.  Most importantly, they remind us that we are not alone in our transition to mother.  I hope they touch you, as they did me.  Here they are:

adjusting to motherhood

“I’ve been a mother for twelve years, now.  It finally feels “normal” to me.  I was put on antidepressants shortly after both of my boys were born due to “baby blues”.  My youngest is five and I just now was able to wean myself off of these drugs and finally feel great without meds.  Note: both of my boys were “oopses”.  I never actually make the decision to become a mother.  I think this was a big part of the problem for me.”

Aimee M.

“Yes. When they could go to the bathroom on their own and get a drink by themselves.”

Gidget H.

Gidget
Gidget

“Mine isn’t quite what you are looking for probably.  
Hubby and I married young (19 & 20) and got pregnant the next month. We were planning on waiting 5 years. lol! I was very angry. The first half of my pregnancy I just cried. At about 20wks I went in for my ultrasound and had a total change of heart! There was my baby! So tiny and beautiful and precious.  I was instantly in love with her and I cried through my whole appointment! After she was born I started out with the typical authoritarian parenting style, but quickly discovered that wasn’t who I was, or what I wanted. I wandered through a couple years of permissive parenting before I found gentle parenting. Now I have principles to guide me though my parenting journey.”

Courtney F.

“Not until after the colic went away… around 6mo.”

Heather W.

Heather and Gus

“When I learnt to stop looking at the time and start looking at my baby.”

Chelsea H. 

“When we started cosleeping. It gave me a level of attachment that allowed me to see our child as her own person which brought more respect to her. I then let go of the authoritarian way. Our relationship changed in a big way. I was raised in an authoritarian household and I still have to fight against turning to that when things get difficult. Luckily our daughter does not respond well to it.”

Tanya King

Tanya and Sierra

 

“Once I started exercising, I felt I had better control over my emotions and was able to be a better mom!”

Amanda S.

Amanda

“Still don’t at 5 months. Fought colic, had UTL/TT lasered, dealing with constant nursing and holding, struggling with supply, and very little sleep because of babe refusing naps.

Grandmother watches the baby while I work 8-3:30. Husband works second. Both are very supportive of breastfeeding and help with almost everything – from laundry to cleaning to cooking. My work allows me to pump 2 times. I am very blessed, but I just don’t feel like I get “it” half of the time. The first 3 months were hell. I would call my mom crying my eyes out because I couldn’t get LO {little one} to stop crying – nothing worked. She would come over to help to find a teary-eyed baby laughing. It was like she knew she was alone with me and hated it. My mom and husband thought I was exaggerating, but they both figured out that wasn’t the case when I went back to work. She is still demanding and fussy, but I think I have adjusted and that it is not as bad as it used to be.”

C. Moss

C Moss

Now we ask you; if you didn’t adjust easily to motherhood; was there a turning point for you when you felt like things were getting better and that you were doing okay?  Tell us in the comments.