Picking Children Up Against Their Will: One Mother’s Lesson

Before we knew better, my husband and I would pick our then 2 (ish) year old daughter up and bring her wherever we wanted her to go. I mean hey- we only had so much time to get where we “needed” her to be. Sydney would defy and protest. She was steadfast in her resolve […]

People Are Good: 5 Actions That Prove It

People are good. Not everybody is good, but most people are. Yes, we all have a lot of stuff we need to face. We have a lot of accountability we need to accept. We have a lot of work we need to do to make this world, and the US better. I do not believe […]

Children are People and Have Preferences- Just Like You and Me!

One of the things that I am grateful for as an adult, is that I can make things the way I like them. I prefer brothy soup for example, so when I make soup, I make sure it is extra-brothy, so I can enjoy it. I like a blanket over my lap when I am […]

5 Reasons I Love Unschooling

Though this is not (like ever, in a million years) a path I expected to be on, I have fallen in love with the Unschooling life. We are still very much learning and I still have a long way to go. Rather than talking about my mistakes and successes, or how much better life is […]

Screens, Sleep, and Squash: Moving Toward Tension Free Parenting

Parenting: don’t be a fun buster! I am learning that the best thing we can give our kids is a fun, happy, tension free home filled with thoughtful gestures and kindness. (I’m still working on all of this). Personally, I’m learning that hyper focusing on screens, or food, or bedtimes, does not create the healthy environment […]

We Do Not Pretend Santa is Real: Let Me Explain

We do not pretend Santa is real (read about it here), but we celebrate Christmas. We do not just celebrate it actually, we revel in it (read about it here). Some people cannot reconcile this. They seem to think that if Santa is not accepted as a living, breathing person in our home we must […]

When a Mother Loses Her Shit

There are few things more heartbreaking for a mother than knowing you are the one who caused your child pain. Today, I lost my shit. It has been building for weeks. There were lots of factors. My husband was away for a full week then came home with a stomach bug. We quarantined him for […]

Childism: Not a Call to Action, Just a Beginning

I have early memories of experiencing Childism. I remember being thought of as less than. I remember not being asked whether or not I could be tickled, hugged, or transported somewhere. I remember the power of an adult being lorded over me. I remember the unfairness of it all. I recognized the injustice of it […]

When We “Choose Love” Do We Opt Out of Healing Our Nation?

It sounds beautiful, I know. I mean, who could disagree to “choose love” in any situation, right? I do. I disagree. I do not necessarily believe that the way people are throwing the phrase “choose love” around will heal our country. I worry that when we say this we are opting out of what it means to “choose […]

My Hope in the Wake of the Election

Today is surely an historic day. None of us knows what it means or what it will look like. Even those in the know agree on this. I read a line on our Facebook page today that said “children need hope”, and I realized we adults do too. How do we move forward without hope? […]

People Pleaser to Authentic: Overcoming the Expectations of Women

I was a people pleaser for too long. Now, I am recovering and moving toward living an authentic life. Even while I am a mom.  People whom I admire kept talking about how something almost magical happens at 40. Self confidence is gained. Worry about what others think is lost. Living life to please others […]

All Moms are Not a Hot Mess

I keep seeing this meme going around Facebook that says something like “all moms are a hot mess some are just better at hiding it” and it drives me bonkers. It is not true and it is a disservice to let new moms (or any moms) think there is no hope for getting a sense of […]

Our Family Life is Better, Not Perfect

I read a comment on my Facebook page recently that gave me an a-ha moment. Even though what I predominantly talk about is getting better at parenting, my posts could lead one to believe that my family lives in a nice and peaceful home. My posts could make it look like I’ve got it all […]

“She’s All Girl”: The Uncertainty of Responding to Ignorance

This situation comes up more regularly that we would like, doesn’t it? Somebody makes an unknowing remark to or around our children, and we find ourselves responding to ignorance. This happened to me last week. We were shopping at HomeGoods when my six year old declared “this is amaze” testing our the new-to-her slang word after […]

Homeschool Fall: Moving Beyond Old Expectations

It happens every year. Fall rolls around and kids go back to school. Many of my fellow homeschool families are busy forming schedules and registering for classes. For us though, Fall is just like Summer, which is just like Spring, which is just like Winter. While we love the change of seasons, they don’t bring […]

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