Spanking: A Day To Consider

Welcome to the Spank Out Day 2012 Carnival

This post was written for inclusion in the Second Annual Spank Out Day Carnival hosted by Zoie at TouchstoneZ. Spank Out Day was created by The Center for Effective Discipline to give attention to the need to end corporal punishment of children and to promote non-violent ways of teaching children appropriate behavior. All parents, guardians, and caregivers are encouraged to refrain from hitting children on April 30th each year, and to seek alternative methods of discipline through programs available in community agencies, churches and schools. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.

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Spanking:  A Day to Consider

Though I cannot differentiate between physical abuse and spanking, I acknowledge that some people believe there is a difference and that spanking is necessary.  Maybe to avoid a dire consequences or simply so that the parent maintains their rightful control.

I will surely be accused of thinking that I am a perfect parent by saying that I have never  hit, spanked, swatted, slapped or physically hurt my children.  Rest assured though, that I have made horrible and rotten parenting choices.  So many that if I allow myself to think of them all at once I fear they would collectively crush me.

So today, I would just like to ask everyone to consider what this day is about.  This is a day to bring awareness to a societally accepted practice that should have disappeared before it started.  To challenge what you are being told and taught and to ask yourself if it feels right, and if you really want your relationship with your child to be based on the fear of being physically hurt.

I ask you to consider it from your child’s perspective.  That precious little baby whom you want nothing more than to love and connect with, who is scared and in pain every time you spank or hit him.  Who cannot differentiate between the mother who hugs away her nightmares but also raises her hand.

Her father who will protect her from all those who try to hurt her, but also must be feared.

So maybe today is a day to consider the information and perspectives that are being offered as a part of  National Spank Out Day.  They are all offered as a means of support, knowledge and encouragement and I hope that you will utilize them.

Click here to read about my own journey toward gentle discipline.

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Spank Out Day 2012 Carnival hosted by TouchstoneZ

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Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

 

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Comments

  1. Thank you for participating. I’m about to head off to bed, but I look forward to reading more in the morning!

  2. I love how you made this post all about challenging one self to think about what the day really is about, and your honesty how you haven’t been perfect. I think it’s hard to be a parent and never get to that boiling point! It really is all about the relationship and connection just like you said, reflecting on that is so important, today and everyday…really lovely post!

  3. I couldn’t agree more, very nicely written. What I don’t understand is how parents get rightfully furious when someone else hits their kids but can somehow justify it when they do the exact same thing.

    • Megan,

      It is hard to understand, I agree. I think that those who spank their children because they believe it is necessary differentiate between hitting and spanking (I do not agree that there is a difference).

  4. This line, “Rest assured though, that I have made horrible and rotten parenting choices.”
    made me chuckle… oh boy do I get that one!
    I agree…. can’t imagine doing anything to physically hurt my child, any child or anyone for that matter.
    I’m going to read your other post now…

  5. When you research the history of child rearing practices, you can only wonder how some people managed to survive their childhoods at all. Positive change is only good for all of us really.

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