A concise collection of information for rethinking discipline.
Why I Don’t Choose My Battles by The Path Less Taken:
“I don’t want to view any interaction with my children as a battle. A battle implies that it is me versus them, and that there will ultimately be a winner and a loser… I get my way this time, and they get their way next time. What I want instead is to find our way. I want my children to know that I am their partner, and that I am on their side.”
What’s Wrong with Time-Outs? by Aha! Parenting:
Timeouts teach the wrong lessons, and they don’t work to create better behaved children. In fact, they always worsen kids’ behavior. Why?
How Children Really React to Control by Thomas Gordon, Ph. D.
“It seems so obvious, then, that children don’t ever want punitive discipline, contrary to what its advocates would have us believe. No child “asks for it,” “feels a need for it,” or is “grateful for it.” And it is probably true, too, that no child ever forgets or forgives a punitive parent or teacher.”
22 Alternatives to Punishment by Jan Hunt:
“But knowing what not to do is only the first step; parents wonder what they should do instead. Unfortunately, most current parenting books and articles recommend “alternatives” which in reality are merely alternative punishments. These include time-out, denial of privileges, and so-called “logical” consequences.”
Living by Principles Instead of Rules by Sandra Dodd and Others:
“A principle internally motivates you to do the things that seem good and right. People develop principles by living with people with principles and seeing the real benefits of such a life.
A rule externally compels you, through force, threat or punishment, to do the things someone else has deemed good or right. People follow or break rules.”
And a video by Naomi Aldort:
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