Today’s entries inspire us mothers. They remind us that when we are parents, no task is mundane. They call us to appreciate our children for who they are, and how they really learn. They encourage us to pause and appreciate our day to day, even though each one feels long. Most importantly, they remind us that nothing is more important than our relationship with our kids.
Why Being a Mother is Enough by Rachel Martin
“They don’t see you stand in the bathroom and gather your resolve every morning. They don’t see those of you who mother alone without much support. They don’t see the trips to the car back and forth and back and forth. They don’t see you counting to ten a dozen times before noon. They don’t see you look at the bank account and sigh and try to figure out how to make three meals with what’s left in your pantry. They don’t see you walking into the principals office, doctor’s office, friend’s house and defending your child.” Click here to read.
I read this piece over a year ago, at a time when I was unsure. I had recently pulled my son from preschool and googled what I should be teaching him at home. A reader shared this with me yesterday, and it brought me right back. I now remember that this piece put things in perspective, it shaped me more than I realized at the time, or until now. Nearly two years later, I say emphatically that this is precisely what a four year old should know:
What Should a Four Year Old Know? by Magical Childhood
“That our children deserve to be surrounded by books, nature, art supplies and the freedom to explore them. Most of us could get rid of 90% of our children’s toys and they wouldn’t be missed, but some things are important– building toys like legos and blocks, creative toys like all types of art materials (good stuff), musical instruments (real ones and multicultural ones), dress up clothes and books, books, books. (Incidentally, much of this can be picked up quite cheaply at thrift shops.)
They need to have the freedom to explore with these things too– to play with scoops of dried beans in the high chair (supervised, of course), to knead bread and make messes, to use paint and play dough and glitter at the kitchen table while we make supper even though it gets everywhere, to have a spot in the yard where it’s absolutely fine to dig up all the grass and make a mud pit.” Click here to read.
This next piece speaks to what I am quickly learning about children- they learn from living, and being in the world.
Did My Kids Read for 600 Minutes this Summer? I Don’t Know and I really Don’t Care by Not Your Average Mom
You know what?
It’s fucking summer.
My kids have learned a lot.
Number 3 learned a million rules about baseball he never knew.
He learned how to do a flip turn.
He learned about the value of teamwork.
He learned how to handle losing like a good sport.
He learned how to ride his bike.
Number 4 learned what’s involved in running her own business when she made $30 with her lemonade stand.
She learned how to handle disappointment.
And look for the silver lining in every situation.
She learned how to measure 1 cup.
And 1 tablespoon.
She learned how to change the style, and size, and color of the font on a Word document.
Happy Family Living everyone! Have a great weekend!