Welcome to the Fabulous Hybrid Blog Carnival. Our topic this spring is Change! This post was written for inclusion in the quarterly Blog Carnival hosted by The Fabulous Mama Chronicles and Hybrid Rasta Mama. This month our participants reflect on change in all of its many forms. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.
Sometimes it can be tough. Saying what you mean, and meaning what you say. Because what if you say something that offends somebody? What if we write something that suggests there is a better way? And what if the person who reads it has already and irreversibly done the opposite? Then our words will make them feel sad. And that is not something that I ever want to do.
So for a long time I made sure that my statements were diplomatic, and worded in ways that would make everybody comfortable. I never wanted anyone’s sadness to be because of me.
Then my son was born. And I started to realize how misinformed I had been. And I started to learn how very much information was available.
But I stayed quiet. I did not want to lose friends or stir up trouble. I wanted everyone to be comfortable around me and feel good after speaking with me.
But the more I learned and the more I practiced, the more I realized how uncomfortable I was. Because I was pretending that things were different than they are.
So slowly I started to speak up.
And sometimes people were glad to hear what I had to say, and sometimes they were mad. Sometimes they even questioned my sanity. But I kept speaking. And ever so slowly I found my voice. And it was… different. The voice was steady and confident and sure. The part of me who spoke could handle the insults and ridicule and the untruths being spoken of me.
Because I was speaking about those who do not have a voice. And they are innocent and trusting and painfully confused. And slowly, my fear of making grown-ups sad became far less important than making babies comfortable.
So now I am speaking regularly. And while I am always saddened when someone is hurtful toward me, I have the ability to properly process what is happening to me. And that feels more comfortable to me than babies hurting.
And this change in me is good. Now I feel content and right and comfortable. The insults are easier to take than the falsehoods of pretending that things are different than they are.
So saying what I mean is now my priority. And this is a change that is bettering my life.Thank you for spending some time with Our Muddy Boots. Click on these links to join us on Facebook or Twitter for more conversation and inspiration. Or you can subscribe to have each post delivered right to your inbox or reader by clicking that orange and white button at the very top of the page. I hope that you will visit often, we are glad that you are here!
- Unschooling My Way To CHANGE – Patti at Canadian Unschooler discovered that Unschooling her kids was EASY compared to the bigger change required to Unschool her heart.
- Change (Variety) – Rachel at Lautaret Bohemiet writes about how variety is the spice of life.
- No More Threats – Amy at Presence Parenting flips the idea of parental control through threats on its head, for good.
- Why Are You Mad??? Turn Off the T.V and Meditate – Destany of They Are All of Me discusses limiting stress by focusing more on your Inside self.
- Co-ed Sleepovers? Changing My Mindset – Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama takes a hard look at her previous beliefs about sleepovers.
- Change Can Mean Puddles – Jorje of Momma Jorje has had to clean up some puddles after major changes.
- On Acceptance – Laura at Authentic Parenting writes about how she ditched the constant longing for change and came to accept herself as she is.
- Blissed Out on Birth, Drunk on Baby Skin – Melissa from Mothers of Change passionately explores the changes she would like to see come to the maternity care system, and our universal love of the smell of a newborn baby.
- Changing My Mindset, One Challenge at a Time – Wolfmother at Fabulous Mama Chronicles speaks candidly about her challenges in changing how she parents.
- Because Mommy Said No – Dawn of Raising Natural Kids discusses the use of a common phrase that makes Mommy out to be the bad guy when, in reality, she is making decisions out of love.
- Through Adversity We Grow – Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children chooses to take a positive view on change and growth.
- Life is Change – Rae of Ital Livin’ writes about the large changes her family has made within the last year.constant in life.
- A Changing Voice – Jennifer at Our Muddy Boots discusses how in order to grow change is unavoidable. That does not mean the process is easy though.
- Being. Changing. Believing. – Amy at Me, Mothering, and Making It All Work reminisces on the changes that have shaped her adult life thus far, and molded her into an adaptable, but still type-A, believer in change.
- Motivating Change In The Face Of Apathy – Brenna at Almost All The Truth is asking the question many of us who actively work to change the world: how do we get people to care?
- She Changes Everything She Touches – Change is the only thing we can count on in life, and Jen in Canada examines some of the biggest things she’d like to tackle before the birth of her second child.