Sometimes it can be tough. Saying what you mean, and meaning what you say. Because what if you say something that offends somebody? What if we write something that suggests there is a better way? And what if the person who reads it has already and irreversibly done the opposite? Then our words will make them feel sad. And that is not something that I ever want to do.
So for a long time I made sure that my statements were diplomatic, and worded in ways that would make everybody comfortable. I never wanted anyone’s sadness to be because of me.
Then my son was born. And I started to realize how misinformed I had been. And I started to learn how very much information was available.
But I stayed quiet. I did not want to lose friends or stir up trouble. I wanted everyone to be comfortable around me and feel good after speaking with me.
But the more I learned and the more I practiced, the more I realized how uncomfortable I was. Because I was pretending that things were different than they are.
So slowly I started to speak up.
And sometimes people were glad to hear what I had to say, and sometimes they were mad. Sometimes they even questioned my sanity. But I kept speaking. And ever so slowly I found my voice. And it was… different. The voice was steady and confident and sure. The part of me who spoke could handle the insults and ridicule and the untruths being spoken of me.
Because I was speaking about those who do not have a voice. And they are innocent and trusting and painfully confused. And slowly, my fear of making grown-ups sad became far less important than making babies comfortable.
So now I am speaking regularly. And while I am always saddened when someone is hurtful toward me, I have the ability to properly process what is happening to me. And that feels more comfortable to me than babies hurting.
And this change in me is good. Now I feel content and right and comfortable. The insults are easier to take than the falsehoods of pretending that things are different than they are.
So saying what I mean is now my priority. And this is a change that is bettering my life.Thank you for spending some time with Our Muddy Boots. Click on these links to join us on Facebook or Twitter for more conversation and inspiration. Or you can subscribe to have each post delivered right to your inbox or reader by clicking that orange and white button at the very top of the page. I hope that you will visit often, we are glad that you are here!
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